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Grieving the Man You Didn’t Love Like That

What happens when you finally come out — after decades in a straight relationship — and have to grieve someone you cared about, but never truly desired? This is a tender, honest guide for queer wom...

Why Some Sapphic Love Moves at "U-Haul" Speed

Exploring the psychology, sociology, and intentionality behind the community's most famous stereotype. We’ve all heard the joke: “What does a lesbian bring to a second date? A U-Haul.” It’s a s...

"Is It Rude?" Asking Your Date About Other Partners

Recently, a friend pulled me aside with a dilemma that I think many of us in the dating world, especially in the LGBTQ+ community, have struggled with. She asked: "I’ve been seeing someone and we a...

Sapphic Nights in Bangkok: Stories of Freedom from China and Thailand

Bangkok has long been known as a travel hub, but walk into a lesbian bar in the city, and you realize it is functioning as something much more profound: a sanctuary. On a recent trip to Bangkok, I ...

13 Types of Queers That Make Online Dating Exhausting

Online queer dating can feel like emotional gymnastics… with no mat. From ghosters to scam queens, we’ve all been there. Here are 13 painfully familiar types of queer women on dating apps — the one...

What’s the Hardest Part About Being LGBTQ+?

Feeling alone as an LGBTQ+ person? Here’s a raw, personal look at why queer life is still hard — from community to dating, family to politics.

From Searching to Guiding: What I Learned Running Queer Dating Events After Years of Looking for Love

Queer Dating Mixers and the Quiet Courage of Showing Up Queer Dating Mixers and the Quiet Courage of Showing Up Three days after my most recent ...

When You Know Your Worth, You Don’t Have to Show All Your Cards: Dating Lessons from a Sword Master

Feeling like you need to prove yourself in dating? Here’s why you don’t have to show all your cards to be loved — and why real connection grows from grounded self-trust

You Can’t See the Whole Sky While You’re Standing in the Valley: Why Dating Feels So Confusing

Feeling stuck in dating? It’s not because you’re broken — it’s because you’re growing. Here’s why queer women often feel lost in love, and why you’re closer to finding it than you think.

Your Guide to LGBTQ+ History Month & Queer Dating Today

 February marks the 20th anniversary of LGBT+ History Month in the UK. It was started by a charity called Schools OUT. In the US, LGBTQ History Month was started in 1994, by a teacher named Rodney ...